Thursday, 22 August 2013

Make Your Work More Meaningful by Monique Valcour

Have you noticed the rising chorus in the management literature proclaiming that work must have meaning? This is a very positive development, because work is a huge part of life, and meaning in life is not just a "nice-to-have". We need it in the way we need oxygen. There are few things more life-enriching and life-prolonging in human experience than a sense of meaning.
Critically important to performance and well-being, meaning is what makes people thrive. And conversely, a lack of it undermines people's ability to function on many levels, from job performance to mental and physical health. For example, people who self-report that they are missing a sense of meaning in their lives are far more likely to exhibit the chronic pro-inflammatory stress response that is associated with life-threatening diseases like heart disease and some cancers.
But how many people truly experience their work as meaningful? From my experience conducting research, teaching, and speaking in a number of countries over the last 15 years, I can attest that large numbers of people do not. Across all manner of occupations, from gas station attendants to investment bankers, surveys reveal the numbers of people failing to find meaning in what they do.

So what do you do if you're not in a setting where meaning is obvious — because your organization, for example, exists to provide life-saving technology or to raise people out of poverty? What if you work in place where management is unaware or unconcerned that it could do more to infuse the daily grind with a higher sense of purpose?
You learn to make your work more meaningful yourself. While it helps enormously to have conditions in place that facilitate work meaning (like autonomy in deciding how you do your work), it's important to realize that meaning is ultimately something you create on your own. Indeed, even in jobs that may look dismal from the outside, there are always steps you can take to build the kind of meaning that will make you feel better and work better.
I saw this firsthand when I was a PhD student, in the call center of a large telecommunications company. As part of the research for my dissertation, I was there interviewing and observing customer service representatives while they worked. The pace of work was relentless: as soon as a worker completed a call and hung up the phone, another call would automatically be directed to his or her extension. Every detail of representatives' work was measured and recorded: the number of rings it took them to answer each call; the number of seconds they placed each call on hold; the amount of time they spent resolving each call, etc., as well as daily totals of calls handled and sales made. Supervisors monitored the resulting data in a room that resembled the deck of a starship from science fiction films, with an array of lights that identified representatives who were "out of adherence" with the standards set for the aforementioned metrics. What's more, supervisors could listen in on representatives' calls without their knowledge at any time in order to monitor their performance. If you failed to make a sales pitch on a call that your supervisor was monitoring, you'd be reprimanded. All in all, the work conditions were prime for high stress and low meaning.
Yet there were some employees who experienced their work as meaningful. Joan, a 24-year-veteran of the call center, told me, "I really enjoy my work." She explained, "I am a customer service professional. [Joan's emphasis.] When customers call, it's often because they have a problem that is frustrating to them. I know how to solve every request or problem customers might call with, and I know how to do it in a way that makes them feel good about their call. I resolve the problem so it's no longer stressful for them." The skill mastery she described and demonstrated provided her with meaning, as did the way in which she incorporated this mastery into her identity as a helping professional. Knowing that she was capable of reliably producing a result that she cared about amplified Joan's experience of her work as meaningful. In other words, Joan's recipe for work meaning was self-efficacy mixed with concordance with her personal values, seasoned with connection to and feedback from the beneficiaries of her work.
Sitting by her side with a headset that enabled me to listen in on her calls, I witnessed how Joan systematically built an authentic connection from the first few seconds of her interaction with each caller. "I hear what you're saying, and I know how frustrating this is," she assured her customers. "I understand the issue. I promise that I will help you solve this. I'm so glad I could help you today." Customers responded positively to her competence, compassion, and reassurance, thereby affirming her sense of mastery and boosting her self-confidence and pleasure in her work. Joan's way of working—and of thinking about her work—created a self-reinforcing cycle of performance, meaning, and positive emotion.
Joan's example provides a lesson that everyone can use to make their work more meaningful, regardless of company, industry, or occupation. The key is to link your personal values and motivations to the work you perform. To do this, pay close attention to the elements of your work that you find energizing and fulfilling, and then find ways to incorporate them systematically into how you perform your work. Look for opportunities to make an authentic connection with the people who benefit from your work. Invest some energy in developing positive relationships with others who contribute to the same work results you care about and find energizing.
Since you have the ability to determine how you think about and respond to the conditions you experience, you do have control over the meaning you derive from work. So yes, as you interact with hiring managers and supervisors, keep making it clear that you want meaningful work. But at the same time, do what you can to make the work meaningful.

Till we meet again, you can only get better as your best is yet to be seen. Stay blessed.

DOES HE LOVE YOU?


If you really want to know just how much your man loves you, stop letting words play the important part. Instead, watch his behavior and use these 25 signs he loves you to read his mind.
It’ll help you understand your man better and even make you see just how much he really loves you! So does your guy really love you, even if he doesn’t express his love through words? Find out here.

#1 He remembers what you say. A guy who’s in love with a girl always listens to her and remembers what she says, even if it’s something trivial because he takes her seriously.

#2 He’s chivalrous and treats you like a lady. A guy is chivalrous to a girl when he cares about what she thinks of his behavior. If your guy doesn’t care about you, he wouldn’t care what you think of his behavior.

#3 He takes care of your needs. If your man truly loves you, he’d always look for little ways to make your life better, be it about covering you with a blanket when you’re cold, charging your cell phone even when you don’t ask him, or serving you the better piece of chicken when you’re not looking.

#4 You’re always a part of his big plan in life. He speaks about his life and his dreams with you, and you always have a prominent place in all his future plans.

#5 He holds your hand instinctively when you’re in a crowd, or places his hand on your back while crossing the street. This is a reflex action that neither of you may realize. If a guy loves you, he’d definitely want to protect you and reassure you.

#6 He values your opinions a lot and doesn’t take any important decisions about his own life without hearing your opinions and having a discussion with you.

#7 He wraps his hands around you or stands closer to you when you’re talking to some other guys and having a good laugh. It’s his way of letting the world know that you’re the one he loves and every other guy should back away.

#8 He uses the word “we” instead of saying “I” or “Me” while talking and doesn’t even realize it.

#9 He’s very protective of you. If you’re taking a trip by yourself or even if you’re just driving out with friends, does he like receiving your call after you get to your destination? If your man can relax only after knowing that you’re safe, no matter where you are, he definitely has a special spot for you in his heart.

#10 He’s very interested in your life. If your man loves you, he’d always be eager to know everything about your day, including the little details.

#11 The helping hand. He’s always ready to offer a helping hand every time you ask him *even if he’s busy and he does it while whining and grumbling at the same time*.

#12 After the fight. He makes up after a fight just as much as you make up with him. And at times, he even swallows his pride and apologizes first even if it’s not his fault in any manner.

#13 He keeps you updated. He keeps you informed about his life and what he’s up to even though he knows he has no obligation to do so.

#14 He respects you and treats you with a lot of respect. He doesn’t stare at other girls when you’re around, neither does he cut you in the middle of a conversation.

#15 You’re the last person he speaks to or texts at night. If he loves you, you’d be the first and last thing on his mind every time he wakes up or goes to sleep.

#16 He sacrifices his happiness to see you happy. It could be something as small as choosing a restaurant for dinner or giving you the fluffier pillow or something way bigger that can impact his life.

#17 He makes a lot of effort to be liked by your friends and family. He cares about what your friends and family think of him and he also understands that their impression of him will affect your relationship with your friends and family.

#18 He can’t stay mad at you for any reason for more than a couple of hours. People in love can’t stay mad at each other for long, it hurts both lovers too much. So if he takes the effort to apologize or accept your apology, he really does care about you and your feelings.

#19 He talks a lot. If a guy loves you, you’d find that he opens up really easily to you and talks a lot about everything, be it his life, his plans, his work or even about how annoying his friends really are.

#20 He loves spending time with you. He goes out of his way to be with you. And if he has to cancel a date for any genuine reason, he’d do everything it takes to make it up to you on the next date.

#21 He stands up for you, no matter what you’ve done and no matter where he is. A man who truly loves his woman will stand by her side even if she’s on the wrong. He may criticize you in private, but never ever in public.

#22 Making a choice. If he has to choose between you and anything else in the world, he’d choose you in a flash without even thinking, because he doesn’t need to weigh any options there.

#23 He never forgets your special days, be it your birthday or anniversaries or a big day at work. And he goes out of his way to help you prepare for any big days or events in your life.

#24 He doesn’t get annoyed with you even if he’s busy and you tease him or fool around with him.

#25 At a social gathering, he never gives any girl more attention than he gives you, even if he meets a celebrity.

Don’t jump to conclusions about your man’s love for you. After all, most men aren’t the biggest romantics. But we do have really big hearts that’s full of love for you and you alone.
Till we meet next time, stay blessed. Remember: You can only get better.

Friday, 16 August 2013

food for thought By Mike Ikem Umealo



By Mike Ikem Umealo
"Somehow, Judgement Must Come because Falsehood will only last for a short time and those who pretend shall soon face the reality of their actions:

- We teach that Abortion is wrong- but when we see those teenagers carrying their babies, we put them down and stigmatise them because they refused to abort and chose to become teenage parents; we seem to forget that children are Gods apostles to lead us towards love for humanity.
- We look down on women who have three children from three men and we forget that we have done five abortions for seven men.
- As Pastors, we teach about the Good Samaritan, being our brothers keepers, helping the poor, and the ever imminent Rapture, yet we still own private jets and keep fat bank accounts.
- And we preach healing and do miracles for the masses and yet pay the best doctors to monitor our own health.
- As Imams we dismiss greed and yet we grow fat from the sweat of the poor in our midst- if eventually there is neither hell nor heaven, all these preachers would have obtained money under false pretence.
- We speak about black pride and we claim that "black is beautiful", yet we bleach our skin, tone our complexion and use hairs taken from white people and people of other colour.
- As a loving mother, you support your daughter with her children from a previous relationship to remarry, but when your own son wants to marry that girl with a child from a previous marriage, you scream, "over your dead body."
- As a guy, you have children from a previous marriage, but you will NEVER marry a woman with a child because your people will not accept her.
- Growing up, you decided from onset that you wanted to marry a virgin, but you have dis-flowered six of them ever since then.
- You protect your own daughters from men, yet wait to devour little girls in the absence of their fathers; and use ill- gotten wealth to cajole them.
- As parents, we want our children that come first in their classes and we send them to the best schools, yet we look up to drop-outs like Bill Gates and Richard Branson.
THINK!
Oh yes, my dear friends, I say it as it is, I prefer to be true to myself, even at the risk of incurring your anger and perhaps even "temporary" ridicule from you. I tell you, the anger and ridicule will not last for too long before we make up again. But know today, that it is still far better for me to be true to myself, it is cheaper for me, rather than to be false, and to suffer my own repugnance in future. Share if you like!
(MIU, August, 2013).

Thursday, 8 August 2013

HOW DID IT GET SO BAD?

How did things get so bad? Jesus Christ once asked his disciples this question "when I return,will I still find faith on earth?" I use to wonder what that statement means,but I think I now have a clue. Permit me to rephrase it like this "when I come back,will I still recognise the faith I handed over to you?
This question came to my mind while I was pondering on the happenings in the world today especially in christiandom. In our quest for acceptance, we have allowed a lot of wrong things to creep in. Christians who are meant to be transformers have become conformists. It used to be the world copying the church,but now it is the church copying the world. Jesus said we are the light of the world.that means we should show and lead the way. The world is supposed to be looking up to us and not the other way round. But we now find the things of the world so fanciful and try to copy them.
It hurts my heart when I hear the so-called Gospel musicians converting worldly and devilish songs and tunes to "Gospel songs".(that you mention Jesus,praise the Lord or even Hallelujah in a song does not make it a gospel song). You may argue that there is nothing wrong in that,but it only shows your cravings and desire for those worldly songs that cannot be satisfied because people think that you are a christian and you dont want disappoint them.
Wait a minute!  By using 'gospel lyrics' for a song like kukere or umbrella, who does it glorify? Of course,whever you sing your remixed version, the first thing that comes to mind right from the intro is the original owner and version of the song, and the God factor is not noticed or becomes a mockery. Are the gospel musicians out of ideas? Is it that we are too lazy to get good songs and sounds from the studios? We should be the light the world is copying and not we copying them.
Another embarrassing thing is this international show of shame known as big brother africa. I honestly pity people who take pleasure in watching this display of high level immorality. Regrettably, most,if not all of the participants each season claims to be Christians and I believe they have families and attend churches,yet do these despicable things for money and even become celebrities for it.
How did it get this bad? We have so modernised our faith that I am not sure if God Himself still understand what we are doing. We now accommodate anything and everything. You need to go to some churches and see the atrocities people commit in the name of dancing,you almost wonder if you are in a party hall or a church. Is that the faith that our fathers handed over to us? When you can not even trust some pastors with money, I am sure even God is afraid to put some Christians in political positions less we become an embarrassment to His name.
It is time we wake up from our deep slumber and be Christians once again. It is so bad that we have now put a distinction between been a Christian and been Born again Christian. Take note today,it is either you are a Christian,or you are not. You don't need any adjective to qualify it. MARK YOU! Christianity is not just a religion,neither is it for convenience, it is a way of life. We must choose to follow wholely if we want to follow at all. We cannot long for the things of the world,live like them and still claim to be Christians. For "friendship with the world is enmity with God". We must strive to be good soldiers who are ready to die at our posts.
GOD HELP US BE CHRISTIANS INDEED.

Sunday, 4 August 2013

MY TRIBUTE TO MUMMY AND DADDY OMOLE



Just like a dream it was a year ago,when the terrible and frustrating news of the demise of our beloved mummy and daddy was broken. We asked questions, we wondered and pondered. We didn't even know how and what to think. People I saw beaming with joy just some few hours ago are now both gone? I remember wishing I had gone to greet them when I saw them at a wedding reception that day, but I felt where they were sitting was a bit too far.
We were indeed devastated and crushed, we wondered how we would ever carry on without your smiles and encouragements. I remember I saw picture of both of you smiling and I got the message that you both were telling us that all will be well. We felt we were not prepared for this,but you knew you had given us all we need to carry on even in your absence. The crying and tears may never stop because of the impact you both have made in our lives.
Daddy was a determined soldier of Christ who could give His all for others. An Evangelist to the core. Mummy was so calm, humble and loveable. I used to say that me and Ayanfe were brothers from two Mothers. The tenets you both taught us will always carry us through.
Sometimes,I wish R.I.P meant Return If Possible.But we know You are in a better place.We can't stop missing You.You impacted our lives in a special Way. It is a year today You both left us and we can't stop missing You. RIP Mummy and Daddy Omole. Till we meet to part no more